An after-Valentine's-Day thought

Who hasn’t heard the saying, "Blood is thicker than water"?

Many of us use it to justify unwavering loyalty to our families. However, the phrase isn’t complete: the full saying is, "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," which carries a much deeper and more meaningful message.

This extended version changes our perspective entirely. It suggests that the bonds formed through shared experiences or a common background—the "blood of the covenant"—are stronger than mere blood relations—the "water of the womb." It emphasizes the importance of the families we choose and the people we actively decide to surround ourselves with over those we are born into.

How many of us have family members who, despite sharing DNA, may not align with our core values? Conversely, how many of us have friends who feel more like family than our biological relatives?

I think of my best friend, Gaëlle. We met at work after moving to Japan and connected through an awkward but memorable first encounter. As two young women navigating a culturally challenging environment, we bonded over quirky humor, an unexpected talent for decorating photo portraits, and similar dreams. Over the years, Gaëlle has become the sister I never had. We have supported each other through thick and thin, offering unwavering support and honest advice. Our bond wasn’t determined by genetics; it was forged through shared experiences and mutual respect. That is the essence of the "blood of the covenant."

Family is more than just blood. It embodies connection, understanding, and steadfast support. It's about shared values, respect, and a commitment to be there for one another, no matter what. This sentiment is especially relevant in the context of adoption. The love in families built through adoption is a testament to the strength and beauty of kinship that isn’t based on blood.

As we move past Valentine’s Day—a celebration of love in all its forms—let's remember and cherish the relationships that bring joy and meaning to our lives. True family is formed not only by genetics but by the conscious choice to love and support one another. Let’s honor the "blood of the covenant" and recognize that the ties we create often run deeper than the "water of the womb."

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